Not all “rape survivor resources” are trans* friendly, unfortunately (especially since a large proportion of sexual assaults are perpetuated upon trans* folk) but here’s a good post detailing what resources you can hopefully make available to you as a trans* rape survivor.
[Map of US with white text: Employment discrimination against trans* people completely legal in black states. -HI, CA, NV, OR, WA, MN, IO, IL, NJ, CN, RI, VT, ME in purple.]
The CSPH (located in Pawtucket, Rhode Island) is proud to exist in one of the few states that does have local legislation prohibiting employment discrimination on the basis of being trans*…and horribly upset that this doesn’t exist in federal legislation. Seriously.
For reference, if you are in RI and are experiencing employment discrimination based on your sexual orientation, gender identity, gender, or race, the place to contact is the Rhode Island Commission For Human Rights (http://richr.ri.gov). If your case falls under their jurisdiction, they will work on your case regardless of whether or not you can afford a private lawyer. However, be aware that the statute of limitations for filing a complaint with the Commission is one year from the last documented date of harm/harassment (date of termination if applicable). You MUST file a questionnaire with the Commission within this year, or your case will not be eligible for consideration. Also, to increase the chances of your charge being ruled in your favor, try to document any and all instances of harassment that you can specifically link to your protected class. Note the dates, times, and specific quotes if you can. If you have witnesses, have them write you signed statements or keep their names in mind. The more information you have, the better.
By request, this is an explanation of how I masturbate now. It’s completely changed the experience. For someone as dysphoric as I am, it’s a life-changer.
I discovered that curling my clit inwards prevented erections. From there it was a matter of experimentation until I found this method. There are countless other ways to position your hand, however, so I recommend women who try this experiment! As long as my clit is curled around like in panel 4 I don’t get erect, and there are lots of hot things I can do without triggering massive dysphoria.
It does take getting used to, though, if you’re used to stimulating yourself a certain way. If you’ve masturbated one way your entire life it may take awhile to retrain your body. When I first discovered this technique I couldn’t get off using it. At the end I’d have to go back to the “traditional” method. But now it’s easy. Be patient, be persistent, and experiment. It’s worth it.
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Spread the word, spread your legs…
- Reblogged from amydentata