katelucia:

Jada Pinkett-Smith is aware of the critics that frown up their noses at the way she raises her daughter, Willow. Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair as she pleases, a fact that bothers many who feel girls shouldn’t have that much control over their appearance at such a young age.
Jada decided to address the criticism in a Facebook post:

“A letter to a friend…This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”



Parenting: you’re doing it right.

katelucia:

Jada Pinkett-Smith is aware of the critics that frown up their noses at the way she raises her daughter, Willow. Willow cuts, dyes and styles her hair as she pleases, a fact that bothers many who feel girls shouldn’t have that much control over their appearance at such a young age.

Jada decided to address the criticism in a Facebook post:

“A letter to a friend…This subject is old but I have never answered it in its entirety. And even with this post it will remain incomplete. The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged. This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain. Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be.”

Parenting: you’re doing it right.

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sexxxisbeautiful:

explore-blog:

Roominate – a new line of dollhouses for girls aims to spark interest in science, technology, and STEM rather than reinforcing the gender stereotypes of traditional toys. The startup comes from three female engineers

( Springwise)

so so so so so cool.

can i have one?

Loving this idea. Because it’s not that dollhouses are inherently bad for girls…its that dollhouses of a certain type have become the only thing marketed to/available for girls, and that’s a problem. But these are fantastic.

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transqueery:

Today my son drew himself as a boy for the first time in his life. He’s five and a half years old. For that many years, when he has drawn himself, he has drawn himself as a girl.

In the mediums of crayon, colored pencil and marker, our son is a beautiful girl with long red hair, a big…

A very honest, sad, and beautiful story from one mother on her child and his gender self-identification. It’s heartening to see parents become able to move past the personal “unease” that gender non-conforming children often incite in a society that discourages such behavior. 

Use Your Words - Episode 10: Emotional Overload Help!

Use Your Words! is a series for parents who want to talk with their kids about sexuality in a fun, honest, healthy and comfortable way. 

In this episode, Melissa talks about the importance of self-reflection in relation to sexual-decision making. She provides some suggestions for helping your teens develop healthy habits for dealing with intense emotions, and for how to interpret individual body language.

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 5 (Movie Review: Let’s Talk About Sex!) 
Episode 6 (How To Consent (Or Not)) 
Episode 7 (Let’s Talk Masturbation!) 
Episode 8 (Internet Pornography) 
Episode 9 (Your Daughter’s Bedroom) 

Use Your Words - Episode 9: Your Daughter’s Bedroom

Use Your Words! is a series for parents who want to talk with their kids about sexuality in a fun, honest, healthy and comfortable way. 

In this episode, Melissa discusses the importance of women sharing their life stories with each other and the impact this has on our daughters - as well as sharing some tips for staying sex positive!

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 5 (Movie Review: Let’s Talk About Sex!) 
Episode 6 (How To Consent (Or Not)) 
Episode 7 (Let’s Talk Masturbation!) 
Episode 8 (Internet Pornography) 

Use Your Words - Episode 8: Internet Pornography

Use Your Words! is a series for parents who want to talk with their kids about sexuality in a fun, honest, healthy and comfortable way. 

In this episode, Melissa talks to special guest Amy Johnson, LSW about internet porn and how to discuss & think about it with your kids!

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 5 (Movie Review: Let’s Talk About Sex!) 
Episode 6 (How To Consent (Or Not)) 
Episode 7 (Let’s Talk Masturbation!) 

Use Your Words - Episode 7: Let’s Talk Masturbation!

Use Your Words! is a series for parents who want to talk with their kids about sexuality in a fun, honest, healthy and comfortable way. 

In this episode, Melissa provides some conversation starters for talking with your teens about masturbation and shares some masturbation facts and myths.

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 5 (Movie Review: Let’s Talk About Sex!) 
Episode 6 (How To Consent (Or Not)) 
Episode 7 (Let’s Talk Masturbation!) 
Episode 8 (Internet Pornography) 

theseasonofthewitch:

knowhomo:

LBGTQ* Children’s (Picture) Books To Keep On Your Radar

  1. Oh The Things Mommies Do! What Can Be Better Than Having Two? written by Crystal Tompkins; illustrations by  Lindsey Evans   (follow their tumblr HERE)
  2. The Boy Who Cried Fabulous written by Leslea Newman; illustrated by Peter Ferguson
  3. My Mommy Is A Boy written by Jason Martinez; illustrated by Karen Winchester
  4. My Two Super Dads written by Bronny Falls and Munsta Vincent  
  5. Pugdog written by Andrea U’Ren (*book discussing gender)
  6. The Baby Kangaroo Treasure Hunt, A  gay parenting story written by Carmen Martinez Jover; illustrated by Rosemary Martinez 
  7. My Princess Boy written by Cheryl Kilodavis ; illustrations by Suzanne DeSimone (*book discussing gender)
  8. Arwen and Her Two Daddies written by Jarko De Witte van Leeuwen (Translated from Dutch)  
  9. Fairy Tales of the 21st Century written by Bill Carey (retelling of Sleeping Beauty and Cinderella)
  10. My Uncle’s Wedding written by Eric Ross; illustrations by Tracy K. Green 

I need to try and get some of these for work!

Such a fantastic resource - children start developing ideas about what society tells them are “normal” or “appropriate” gender/family models at a very early age, and having some of these books around can help teach them that it’s actually way more open than that. (We have some of these books in The CSPH library as well!)

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Use Your Words - Episode 6: How To Consent (Or Not)!

Use Your Words! is a series for parents who want to talk with their kids about sexuality in a fun, honest, healthy and comfortable way. 

In this episode, Melissa helps parents empower their teens to say YES and NO - with some tips for how to actively practice these skills!

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 5 (Movie Review: Let’s Talk About Sex!) 

quinlanskyler:

Today I looked up some books on trans* folks at my school library for my mom to read.
Prayers For Bobby: A Mother’s Coming To Terms With The Suicide Of Her Gay Son by Leroy Aarons [This isn’t about transgender issues but it was based on a true story. I read the beginning of it and flipped through some of the excerpts from his journals a long time ago but I remember I could relate to him on many levels. I thought my mom might relate to the mother in the book as a parent and a Catholic/Christian.]
Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide To Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter by Kevin Jennings [I really dislike the word transgenderED but this one seems the most promising out of all of them]
Transparent: Love, Family, And Living The T With Transgender Teenagers by Cris Beam
Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink Or Blue by Leslie Feinberg [this looks really interesting. I want to read it myself.]
Has anyone read any of these books? What are your opinions?

Any of our followers have any opinions? We do have a parenting section in our library, so I’ll be asking our Librarian tomorrow if she has any feedback :)

quinlanskyler:

Today I looked up some books on trans* folks at my school library for my mom to read.

  1. Prayers For Bobby: A Mother’s Coming To Terms With The Suicide Of Her Gay Son by Leroy Aarons [This isn’t about transgender issues but it was based on a true story. I read the beginning of it and flipped through some of the excerpts from his journals a long time ago but I remember I could relate to him on many levels. I thought my mom might relate to the mother in the book as a parent and a Catholic/Christian.]
  2. Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide To Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter by Kevin Jennings [I really dislike the word transgenderED but this one seems the most promising out of all of them]
  3. Transparent: Love, Family, And Living The T With Transgender Teenagers by Cris Beam
  4. Trans Liberation: Beyond Pink Or Blue by Leslie Feinberg [this looks really interesting. I want to read it myself.]

Has anyone read any of these books? What are your opinions?

Any of our followers have any opinions? We do have a parenting section in our library, so I’ll be asking our Librarian tomorrow if she has any feedback :)

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Use Your Words - Episode 5: Movie Review! Let’s Talk About Sex

In our weekly vlog series on how to talk to your teens about sex, Melissa reviews the movie Let’s Talk About Sex…and, well, how that can help you talk about sex as a parent.

New episodes come out on our channel every Tuesday! Please share them with the parents and families in your lives :)

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Episode 1 (How Should You Think About Sex?)

Episode 2 (Answering Questions)
Episode 3 (Sex-Positive Parenting) 
Episode 4 (Values) 
Episode 6 (How To Consent (Or Not)!) 

Think about this contradiction for a moment. Children are being exposed, day in and day out, to some incredibly wacky and bizarre sexual images and content, and are then passing this information on to other children, yet many parents are worried that school sex education will somehow contaminate their innocent minds with dangerous sexual information. Huh? What am I missing here? These parents argue that they want to be the ones to teach their children about sex and sexuality, and they will be the ones to decide when it should be done. This would be fine, except a majority of parents profess to having considerable difficulty communicating with their children about sex and sexuality, About one third of us fear that talking to our kids about sex will cause them to have sex, another third feel uncomfortable, and the remaining third would prefer that others do the teaching for us. So many of us are really not doing what we claim we want to do – and we are leaving our children at the mercy of sexual misinformation.

Dr. Fred Kaeser, What Your Child Needs to Know About Sex and When.  (via vaginastuff)

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gaywrites:

For the past 26 years, the U.S. National Longitudinal Lesbian Family Study has studied families headed by two women to learn about the effects on kids of having two parents with the same gender. The most recent findings show that kids who lack a male role model are just as well-off as kids who do have one.

Of the 17-year-olds included in the study, about half of them (both boys and girls) say they had some kind of male role model in life, despite being raised by two women. But there was no difference in well-being between kids with a male role model and kids without. Likewise, presence of a male role model had no effect on traits associated with gender roles or boys’ adjustment to having two moms.

“Our data suggest that it would be inappropriate for healthcare professionals or social service agents to assume psychological disadvantage to offspring of same-sex parents who do not have role models of both genders,” the authors write. “Likewise, prospective same-sex parents who have concerns about the long-term impact of rearing children in single-gender-parent households should be advised that the quality of the parenting, rather than the sexual orientation of the parents, has stronger associations with the psychological adjustment of offspring. Finally, our data indicate no basis for denying child custody or restricting access to fertility services, adoption, or foster care based on family type.”

Well, well, well. What do you know. 

Finally, a study shows what most of us already knew: you don’t need a male in the family to make it a good family. Good parents are good parents and bad parents are bad parents, regardless of their gender.

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