Today’s Word of the Day is Menophilia!

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“I’ll take it rare, please!” If menstrual blood gets you going, you might have menophilia! Menophilia is the sexual attraction to menstruation. Regardless of whether or not you have menophilia, sexy time doesn’t need to stop because it’s shark week. Orgasms can even help relieve menstrual cramps! If you’re not in a fluid-bound relationship or you’re maybe not as into the taste of blood as Edward Cullen, make sure to use dental dams, condoms, and/or gloves when setting sail in the red sea.   Have you earned your red wings?

 

Today’s Word of the Day is Sexile!

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You’ve been banished from the kingdom. I will be hosting a dignitary from another noble house. But sire, where will I go? That matters little me, you could starve in the frigid North winters for all I care. If this sort of conversation sounds familiar, you’ve probably been to college, where roommates are the ultimate cock-blocks/clam-jams and a lack of warning can lead to yelps of surprise as the roomie and their partner scurry for cover. Not to sound like a martyr, but I once walked 20 minutes to an Arby’s and ordered curly fries to give my roommate some privacy. (I’m not a hero, I just did what needed to be done.) Try a fair, mutually agreed upon system for handling sexiling.  Maybe a strategically-placed tie on the doorknob will do the trick?

Today’s Word of the Day is Parallel Play!

No, it’s not geometry class. Parallel play refers to two or more couples getting busy in the same room or in the same space. If you get off on being a voyeur and an exhibitionist at the same time, parallel play might be perfect for you. Interested in this experience of nearby nookie? Before beginning any parallel play, outlining limits ahead of time with your partner and the other couple(s) is vital; however, usually during this type of dynamic, no activity occurs between separate couples. Adjacent amorous experiences can be popular in the swinging community, but there’s no need to apply labels if you just want to try it out. So grab your partner, ask a friend to grab a partner, and get down with some parallel loving!

Today’s Word of the Day is Polyunsaturated!

Believe it or not, it’s not butter. Polyunsaturated isn’t referring to the fabulous Fabio-endorsed topping, but is a colloquial term for someone who is polyamorous, and currently looking for, or open to, new partners (its opposite is polysaturated, which, as you might imagine, is someone who is not currently looking to add more partners to their repertoire or circle). So if you’re currently polyunsaturated, feel free to spread it on and spread the love.

Today’s Word of the Day is Autagonistophilia! 
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Are you a porn star in your own right? If you’ve mastered the arts of playing to the camera and giving lap dances to your partner, you might have autagonistophilia! Autagonistophilia is the feeling of sexual arousal from performing in front of your partner, a crowd, a camera, or in front of your own mirror. You don’t need to have autagonistophilia to enjoy performing for yourself or others, though. While performing—especially nude—can be a very vulnerable experience, it can also be empowering and fill you with body self-confidence! If you’re intrigued by the thought of performing in front of an audience but are shaking in your skivvies with stage fright, try practicing walking around your house in your underwear or naked (with your roommates’ consent, of course!) to get used to the feeling. Work up to dancing around to music; make it fun! That way, when you step onto stage, you can rest easy knowing that you’ve done this all before. High-res

Today’s Word of the Day is Autagonistophilia! 

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Are you a porn star in your own right? If you’ve mastered the arts of playing to the camera and giving lap dances to your partner, you might have autagonistophilia! Autagonistophilia is the feeling of sexual arousal from performing in front of your partner, a crowd, a camera, or in front of your own mirror. You don’t need to have autagonistophilia to enjoy performing for yourself or others, though. While performing—especially nude—can be a very vulnerable experience, it can also be empowering and fill you with body self-confidence! If you’re intrigued by the thought of performing in front of an audience but are shaking in your skivvies with stage fright, try practicing walking around your house in your underwear or naked (with your roommates’ consent, of course!) to get used to the feeling. Work up to dancing around to music; make it fun! That way, when you step onto stage, you can rest easy knowing that you’ve done this all before.

Today’s Word of the Day is Sexhaustion!

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Have you ever had sex so eye-rollingly, toe-curlingly good that afterwards your pillow talk consists of incoherent mumbling? Lucky you.  Also known as a “bangover,” this dazed, almost drunk, sex fatigue is known as sexhaustion.  In this state, your mind and body are drained and an orgasm has transformed your brain into a broth of fuzzy neurotransmitters. Some people feel insulted when their partner goes to sleep after sex.  But arguably, if you’ve fucked so vigorously that your paramour drifts into a hazy post-orgasmic bliss, this might be a sign of a job well done.

 

Today’s Word of the Day is Medical Play!

 

(n): If “slipping on something more comfortable” involves a hospital gown, you might be into medical play. Medical fetishism involves the attraction to and arousal from objects, situations, and behaviors present in a medical setting. It can include tools like speculums or thermometers (extra points for rectal) as well as uniforms such as scrubs or nurse’s outfits. Medical play can also simply include role-play of doctor/patient, doctor/nurse, or any other variety. Don’t forget about dentists and hygienists! Medical play often involves the handling of objects by those who don’t typically use them, so learning how to properly wield the tools for your tryst is vital. Speaking of vitals, medical play can sometimes involve restraints or gagging, and anytime role play is being used a safe word is advised. When “I’m not sure about that, doctor” just isn’t enough, make sure there’s a word or signal that can let a partner know if play needs to stop. So why not slip on a pair of latex gloves and go for it? This won’t hurt a bit; unless you want it to, of course.

Word of the Day: Monogamish

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If you’re in a steady, committed relationship, but might enjoy occasional sexual play with others perhaps you are monogamish. Distinct from polyamory, this form of non-monogamy, as conceptualized by radio host Dan Savage, implies emotional fidelity to a primary partner while permitting limited casual hook-ups. The idea is for both partners to negotiate the terms of their relationship, often through ongoing conversation. Many couples agree to allow only one-night stands, while others give permission for online flirtations. Some settle on a “don’t ask, don’t-tell” policy, while the rest might share every detail, even using their outside explorations to fuel foreplay. Whether the motive is recreation or exploration, being monogamish could be a way to reconcile emotional compatibility with different sexual desires, while assuming a certain level of risk and responsibility.

Word of the Day: Vasocongestion


Though it may sound like an illness you’d want to avoid, vasocongestion is a super important part of sex. Vasocongestion occurs when your arteries dilate and blood gets trapped in tissue, causing an area to engorge and erect. This can happen in the penis, labia, clitoris, nipples, and earlobes (really!). If someone achieves vasocongestion but then isn’t able to “relieve the tension” (wink wink nudge nudge), the blood stays in the engorged area and slowly drains out, which can be uncomfortable and achey. Though usually referred to as “blue balls,” both penis- and vagina-owners can suffer from this. But don’t panic! Vasocongestion only lasts a short time and should not cause major pain or injury. It’s only a minor discomfort, which does not entitle anyone to sex and is never an excuse to pressure someone into something. If you do feel pain during arousal, or experience “blue balls” for more than 24 hours, you should contact a doc. Otherwise, have some fun and “heal” your vasocongestion by yourself or with a willing partner!

Word of the Day: Ethical Slut

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Made famous by the book of the same name, the concept and terminology of the ethical slut refers to a person who participates in multiple sexual relationships demonstrating both great responsibility and respect to their partners and themselves. This involves sexual activity with agreed-upon protection, clear communication, and positivity for all involved. An ethical slut finds joy in safe promiscuity, and is able to reclaim and rebrand the word slut to be a proud and sex-positive term. Just like Spiderman, our sexual lives often weave a tangled web, and just like Spiderman, ethical sluts know that with great power comes great responsibility.

Word of the Day: Anililagnia

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Can’t keep your mind off of those mothers you’d like to take home? You may have anililagnia, or an attraction towards older ladies. In porn, these women are often fetishized as MILFs or cougars, touted as impressively experienced and aggressive. Some women take on these titles proudly. Nina Hartley, for example, claims that she is the “ultimate MILF,” and there have been a plethora of reality TV stars who call themselves cougars. So if you have anililagnia, own it! There are definitely people out there who want to meet you.

Word of the Day: Sexache

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Familiar with that pleasurable pain you feel after a particularly rough romp? A sexache is exactly that: the soreness that lingers from your spirited sensual pursuits. Rough sex and the ache it brings can be a lovely reminder of your recent fun, but if any pain lasts longer than usual, make sure to see a medical provider to make sure your adventures haven’t caused any damage. Before engaging in any rough behavior (or touching of any kind, for that matter) make sure to discuss what is and isn’t okay with your partner. After all is said and done, make sure you’ve got a couple of advils for the morning after. Ibuprofen is a great accessory for your post-sex smile.

Word of the Day: Cheimatophilia

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Do you like to cool down when things are heating up in the bedroom? Perhaps you have cheimatophilia — a love of cold. Ice play is a great way to experiment with temperatures during sex. Running a piece of ice on skin can be exhilarating, and particularly chilling on nipples, which will erect at the low temperature. Some sex toys have compartments specifically for filling with water and freezing, but you can also just put your favorite steel or glass toy in the fridge. No matter what you use, though, make sure it doesn’t stick to your skin. It may be helpful to run the object under cool water, to remove frost and have it melt a bit. If cheimatophilia is your thing, look forward to the winter, where abundant snow and cold wind would be perfect for some frigid fun. There are tons of ways for you to brrrring it on.

Word of the Day: Condom Contract (or Condom Commitment)

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Please stay behind the latex line! Those in non-monogamous relationships (having more than one partner, with innumerable possible dynamics and arrangements) may engage in something called a condom contract. Though nothing needs to be signed and dated necessarily, it is a formal agreement between primary partners that fluid exchange is permissible with no other (or only specified) partners. Under a condom commitment, sexual contact without barriers (condoms, dental dams, or finger cots) is only permissible with the partners in agreement and usually after STI testing. Like most things in a healthy non-monogamous relationship, it involves clear communication and understanding between partners.

Please stay behind the latex line! Those in non-monogamous relationships (having more than one partner, with innumerable possible dynamics and arrangements) may engage in something called a condom contract. Though nothing needs to be signed and dated necessarily, it is a formal agreement between primary partners that fluid exchange is permissible with no other (or only specified) partners. Under a condom commitment, sexual contact without barriers (condoms, dental dams, or finger cots) is only permissible with the partners in agreement and usually after STI testing. Like most things in a healthy non-monogamous relationship, it involves clear communication and understanding between partners.

Word of the Day: Tribadism



Tribadism is the act of rubbing a vulva against stuff like pillows, sheets, arms, and legs; but the term most commonly refers to two vulvas being rubbed together. To do this, you can interlock legs with a partner, like you would when sliding two open scissors into each other. This act is called scissoring (surprise!). While people usually use the term when referring to cisgender lesbian women, anyone with a vulva can get in on the action. Unfortunately, anyone with a vulva can also get in on the STIs that are spread this way. Even though there isn’t any penetration, when there is an exchange of fluids, there’s a risk. Never fear, though! Dental dams with a dab of lube on both sides can keep you safe and slippery.