Paul Cox talks about his own asexuality, how it manifested as he grew up, and how he and his wife have found love and happiness despite common narratives on “why asexuals bother to get together”. A beautiful and enlightening article.
It’s so underrepresented, I can understand why people are skeptical. I was too, even though I was perfectly used to thinking of myself in this way. For years I just thought I was the only person in the world who felt like this…
…People always ask how our marriage is different from just being friends, but I think a lot of relationships are about that - being friends. We have built on our friendship…The obvious way we differ is that we don’t have sex, though we do kiss and cuddle. We like to joke that the longer we’re married the less unusual this is. By the time we’ve been married five years we’ll be just like everyone else.
Do I feel as if I’m missing out on something? Not really.