Paul Cox talks about his own asexuality, how it manifested as he grew up, and how he and his wife have found love and happiness despite common narratives on “why asexuals bother to get together”. A beautiful and enlightening article. It’s so underrepresented, I can understand why people are skeptical. I was too, even though I was perfectly used to thinking of myself in this way. For years I just thought I was the only person in the world who felt like this… …People always ask how our marriage is different from just being friends, but I think a lot of relationships are about that - being friends. We have built on our friendship…The obvious way we differ is that we don’t have sex, though we do kiss and cuddle. We like to joke that the longer we’re married the less unusual this is. By the time we’ve been married five years we’ll be just like everyone else. Do I feel as if I’m missing out on something? Not really.  Click here or on the photo for the full article!

Paul Cox talks about his own asexuality, how it manifested as he grew up, and how he and his wife have found love and happiness despite common narratives on “why asexuals bother to get together”. A beautiful and enlightening article.

It’s so underrepresented, I can understand why people are skeptical. I was too, even though I was perfectly used to thinking of myself in this way. For years I just thought I was the only person in the world who felt like this…

…People always ask how our marriage is different from just being friends, but I think a lot of relationships are about that - being friends. We have built on our friendship…The obvious way we differ is that we don’t have sex, though we do kiss and cuddle. We like to joke that the longer we’re married the less unusual this is. By the time we’ve been married five years we’ll be just like everyone else.

Do I feel as if I’m missing out on something? Not really. 

Click here or on the photo for the full article!

In this week’s Q&A, our staff writer talks about asexuality: what it is, where you can go to find more information about it, and how you might go about examining the difference between experiencing asexuality & experiencing sex-negativity. Asexuality is defined as a lack of sexual attraction towards other people. Unfortunately, a lot of misinformation about asexuality exists due to the general lack of education surrounding this sexual identity. Indeed, asexuality challenges many people’s fundamental beliefs about human nature, possibly resulting in people being careless and unmindful of the language they use to discuss sexuality. This is especially relevant in sex education and sex positivity, where a lack of discussion and inclusion of asexuality can be alienating and hurtful. Thus, my position on asexuality is that it is a legitimate sexual orientation and/or identity that deserves to be discussed and explored within social discourse. Find the full article here! High-res

In this week’s Q&A, our staff writer talks about asexuality: what it is, where you can go to find more information about it, and how you might go about examining the difference between experiencing asexuality & experiencing sex-negativity.

Asexuality is defined as a lack of sexual attraction towards other people. Unfortunately, a lot of misinformation about asexuality exists due to the general lack of education surrounding this sexual identity. Indeed, asexuality challenges many people’s fundamental beliefs about human nature, possibly resulting in people being careless and unmindful of the language they use to discuss sexuality. This is especially relevant in sex education and sex positivity, where a lack of discussion and inclusion of asexuality can be alienating and hurtful. Thus, my position on asexuality is that it is a legitimate sexual orientation and/or identity that deserves to be discussed and explored within social discourse.

Find the full article here!

Trans*-Neuro-Bility: QTPOC Tumblrs!

homoarigato:

A great list of resources for queers & trans* folk of color!

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asexual-not-a-sexual:

*phew* 

There we go. I’ve continued the sassy coming out ace card to extend to more orientations. These are intended as a joke, but they might actually come in handy if you’re being questioned about your orientation and you need a sassy retort. 

[Note: I’ve also edited the asexual one for optimum readability. If you are visually impaired, I would greatly appreciate your feedback on the legibility and readability of these comps. I wanna make sure everyone can enjoy my designs, not only those with good vision. So your feedback is a big help!]

Cute n’ sassy lil “coming out cards”…think of it as an auto-reply to those who think your sexuality should be public domain.

(via satellitecastle)

fuckyeahmenfolk: asexual-not-a-sexual: I am in love with Ignition Zero.  This is a webcomic with two main asexual character.  I am in love. This is absolutely AMAZING!  Thank you to Noel Arthur for creating this. It feels wonder to see such a gorgeous comic portraying asexual characters.  This exists and actually has good art! Awesome sauce! Check this out! Always exciting to see great new stories involving characters of all sorts of sexual identities - not just straight romance after straight romance. High-res

fuckyeahmenfolk:

asexual-not-a-sexual:

I am in love with Ignition Zero. 

This is a webcomic with two main asexual character. 

I am in love. This is absolutely AMAZING! 

Thank you to Noel Arthur for creating this. It feels wonder to see such a gorgeous comic portraying asexual characters. 

This exists and actually has good art! Awesome sauce!

Check this out! Always exciting to see great new stories involving characters of all sorts of sexual identities - not just straight romance after straight romance.

(via genderqueer)

In response to your sex positive Saturday post, I guess sex positivity defined is this: Not abusing people for their sexual interests or practices, taking pride in your own sexuality and human sexuality as a spectrum, and promoting healthy sexual behaviors based on the fact that humans (with the exception of the asexual population and community) are sexual animals, and that sexual pleasure is good for the mind, body, and soul.

Asked by
savkobresia

Thanks for your submission! 

It’s great that you take the time to acknowledge and not exclude the asexual community. We just want to add that even if you are asexual and do not experience strong physical sexual desires, you are still able to participate fully in a personal and meaningful definition of sex positivity. :) This also applies to those who choose to abstain from sex for whatever reason (although the two should not be conflated).

Our aim at the CSPH is to destigmatize sexual pleasure and completely agree that there are a variety of emotional and physical benefits that can come from sex - but it’s OK not to be having sex or sexual desires. We just hope you refrain from abusing others who do, and are able to take pride in your own sexuality and sexual decisions no matter what they are.

Thanks again for sharing your definition with the CSPH :)

Word of the Day:

Even those who work in the fields of gender and/or sexuality, it can be hard to keep track of all the latest terms/acronyms used. For Today’s definition, we are breaking down what exactly LGBTIQQA stands for.

LGBTIQQAA: There are numerous variations of the basic LGBT acronym used by
some people in order to be more inclusive, with “I” for Intersex, “Q”
for Queer and/or Questioning, and “A” for Asexual and/or Ally.


From Fenway Health’s Glossary of Gender and Transgender Terms. For a full look, click here.

Just your average asexual~: Help Asexual Awareness Week raise $1,000!

hiohmegan:

acesecrets:

Asexual Awareness Week (October 23-29 2011) needs to raise $1,000 to buy copies of (A)sexual and to create a web advertising campaign.

The money will be spent on two things:

1. $500 will be allotted for a web advertising campaign that introduces asexuality to the wider public…

I loved this movie.  Loved it!

What can sexual people do to make asexual people feel valued and accepted?

Simple. Acknowledge that asexuality exists.

But how does one go about that?

  • Watch your blanket statements when it comes to sexuality, especially when it comes to comparing lack of sexuality with lack of humanity or suggesting that “everybody” needs sex.

  • Make sure it gets represented in academic discussions or surveys of sexuality if you have the power to do so.

  • Refrain from assuming that everyone who’s single is trying desperately to be otherwise (as aromantic asexuals don’t want to date), and if an asexual brings up the subject just try to be your brand of accepting. You can approach people in general without assuming they are sexual until proven otherwise.

Click here to read the rest of this great article.

Asexual - An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of an individual. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently.