I can sexualize myself and portray myself as sexual without objectifying myself. I can be as sexual as I want and still command respect.
Sexual person ≠ sexual object.
Owning your sexuality is far from objectifying yourself.
Exactly. When we complain about hypersexualized images of women in media, for example, we are not complaining about the fact that women can be viewed or portrayed sexually, period. We are complaining because the way in which their sexualization is being used in these cases serves to objectify rather than empower. Cases like the one operation-orgasm describes, where sexuality is personally owned, or any cases where people want to sexualize themselves (emphasis on the personal agency involved), are very different.