The official Tumblr for the Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health!Word Of The Day: safeword
We are proud to be pro-kink, but (as all responsible kinksters should be), we want to make sure all kinky play is as safe as it can be. A safeword is a quick, fast, and clear way to signal to your partner that you’ve had enough - especially if you’re engaging in the type of play where saying “no” is part of the narrative, and it’s hard to determine when you mean play-no and when you mean real-no.
Safewords can consist of anything, as long as they are agreed upon in advance and the people in the play scene agree to respect it/feel confident that the scene will be halted when the safeword is used. They don’t even have to be words; non-verbal safewords are handy for play that constricts speech (gags are sexy!), or handy for people who prefer to use other modes of communication. You can try squeezes (two squeezes for STOP), colored cards/scarves that the person in question can hold up, (red to STOP), or sounds (the person can hold a ball or other weight, and drop it as a signal).
Because when everyone is sure they can be safe, that’s when you can really get dirty…
